Sunday, June 15, 2014


Lately, I have felt the urge to write about a topic that many women can relate to. A topic that many women feel can liberate or oppress them. A topic which once was defined by each individual has now become defined by the mass media.


What is true beauty?

Well, beauty can be defined on many different levels. For example, beauty can be defined by some as "perfectly shaped eyebrows, beautiful hair extensions, a big (fake) chest, makeup artist skills, designer wardrobe, collagen injected face, fake nails, flawless skin etc.. " or true beauty could also be defined as " a pure kind heart, a natural face with no makeup, a smile, good manners, beautiful character, etc.." The definitions can be very broad but what we see in today's society is that true beauty is defined by the first definition. Surely, there are some marketing campaigns out there that try to advertise beauty as unconventional and not your typical 5'10, 120lbs, big chested, luscious hair extensions, all-year-around summer glow, flawless makeup routine etc.. Yes, we get that. Of course, usually these marketing campaigns are made to target a certain group of people (i.e- the yogis, the vegan lover, the "be comfortable in your own skin-even if it means be naked..) so either way, we know that it is the media who defines what beauty is because they want to make money and need to try to target every kind of people out there.

Well, what about targeting Muslim women ? Or Orthodox Jews and Christians? What about us women who find true beauty in covering our beauty? Why can we never find advertisements that express the true beauty of covering and remaining chaste and modest? See, the mass media never will consider this as true beauty. According to them and to the Western society, "true beauty" is not hidden. It is not something that should be concealed and kept in private for the people who matter ( i.e- husband, & permissible family members). True beauty is defined as "if you got it, flaunt it like no tomorrow!" This is true beauty in the eyes of many. When these kind of people see a Muslim woman or a conservative Jewish woman , they think  "wow so backwards and old fashioned! What is wrong with them?!" ...did they ever wonder that being dressed half naked dates back to the cavemen and prehistoric era? If anyone would be old-fashioned and backwards, then it is these very people! Subhana'Allah !

“Among the things that people have found from the words of the previous prophets was: ‘If you feel no shame, then do as you wish.’”
Since when did other people, especially the media , dictate to US women WHAT is true beauty? Brainwashing thousands of innocent young women who are impressionable and naive and who do not know better, thinking they are overweight and hideous because they do not have fake breasts and fake-everything! How can true beauty be true when it has a price tag on it? When you need to buy your lips, your eye colour, your hair colour, your breast size, and your fat cells?! Since when has this become TRUE beauty? When the price tag of your shirt and pants cost more than your university tuition? Subhana'Allah! I wonder at such a thought ...How can this be true beauty when half of us can not even afford it?! No, this is not true beauty.. it can not be! This is something unattainable and extremely irrational ! It truly breaks my heart when i browse through my instagram the public accounts in which all these kafir women who many Muslimah women are trying so hard to copy! I see these kafir women, dress half naked, skin tight everything- even their faces ! Covered with makeup and expensive clothing ! Comments below by many women "wow gorgeous!" " OMG U ARE PERFECT" and let us not forget the Arab men who ALWAYS have to give their two cents of an opinion because they do not know how to fear Allah and stay away from the impermissible "jamilah ...wowwww"  , "heloo, woowww ", "nayceee, wher u from" ??!!! SUBHANA'ALLAH! What is THIS?!
IS THIS TRUE BEAUTY? These women using their fake goods to entice women and men of all ages and brain sizes! Subhan'Allah.. this is unfair.. this is just not right! The shaitan has won?!!!!!


True is something that can never be attained except by the modesty of a believing woman. She knows that her Lord has created the man as weak and she knows that her beauty is not made to cause fitnah and lure others into a lustful trap! True beauty is when a woman knows that she has been ordered to COVER every part of her private parts from impermissible wandering eyes! The beautiful one is she woman who knows her worth and her value and she keeps it from the strange aliens of predators in this dangerous world! True beauty lies in her assertiveness and boldness when she steps out of her home in her PROPER HIJAB/NIQAB, her loose gown and her feet COVERED. True beauty lies in the woman who fears her Lord and know her goal is not the dunya but the akhirah! True beauty is the woman who saves her self for ONE MAN not EVERY MAN!  True beauty is not showing off her beauty to everyone and anyone , but true beauty is when she preserves herself and her modesty for hers truly, Allah (and her husband) . True beauty is the woman who knows that she has been blessed with natural beautiful hair, lips, chest, and not needing to change or alter anything because she is pleased with what her Lord has given her!!! True beauty is NOT wanting to conform to society nor imitate the kafirs and look just like them! True beauty is something that the disbeliever will never experience until they become a Muslim woman. True beauty is the woman who heeds to the Qur'an and Sunnah and follows truly her Lord's Command and not her desires! True beauty is shyness, purity, and humility. True beauty is a Muslim woman, the one who fears her Lord and knows that He is watching. She hears, and she obeys.. This, my sisters in Islam , is TRUE BEAUTY.

“It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allaah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allaah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed into a plain error”
[al-Ahzaab 33:36] 

“And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer palms of hands or one eye or dress like veil, gloves, headcover, apron), and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of feminine sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allaah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful”
[al-Noor 24:31] 

Thursday, June 12, 2014

Stop making excuses for oneself- THE POISONED ARROW .

great great great reminder about lowering the gaze. 
This lecture helps explain everything that I want to say but this brother says it way better than I could. Please be mindful and do not stare at him while listening to the lecture.. I always recommend to play the lecture while maybe cooking, cleaning or doing a hobby that allows you to multi-task (listening while working - i.e - sewing, knitting, crochet ..etc) 

Saturday, May 31, 2014

are YOU free?

"Truly, the life of this world is nothing but a [quick passing] enjoyment, and verily, the Hereafter that is the home that will remain forever.)"
(Qur'an 40:39)

Sorry for the LONG gap, I have been very busy with some personal matters and it has been taking up much of my time! But insha'Allah i will try my best to keep writing (BidhniAllah) ....

It has now been three years since I took my Shahadah (March 2011) and though I am still fairly new to Islam, I have learnt a lot about myself and what being a Muslim woman is all about. I still remember the day I took my Shahadah like it was yesterday; when I repeated those mighty, heavy words it was as if a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders and it was as if I was finally free from all the heavy burdens I had been carrying for nearly 26 years of my life. I could finally breath. I was free from my past, I was free from oppression, I was free from being a slave to my own desires and from being a slave to society. I WAS FREE!!!!!!!! Allahu Akbar. 

The feeling of FREEDOM still remains with me and not a day goes by do I thank Allah for the gift of guidance to His BEAUTIFUL RELIGION, Islam. However, not a day goes by do I struggle with the media and society trying to dictate to me what MY religion is. The western society and media feel that they are entitled to make ignorant assumptions about WHAT Islam means, WHO Muslims are, and WHY Muslim women are oppressed. Well, as a Muslim woman AND as a convert to Islam, I feel that it is MY duty to clear up some misinterpretations which not only make the beautiful religion of Allah look terrible, but I'd love to also let the media know that it is not the HEADSCARF or the NIQAB that oppresses us, but it is merely your IGNORANCE that oppresses us.

Let me begin with a little bit about myself: I was born and raised in Toronto, Canada and it is one of THE most busy, diverse and multicultural cities in the West. I was a fashion student who dedicated my life to Vogue/Elle/Fashion magazines, fashion shows, fashion models, and living a very materialistic lifestyle. I was a VIP in the party scene and I was also a hardcore gym 'junkie' and my body image was the most important thing in my life and I worshiped celebrities and had no religion, no morals and values. I lived for the moment, there was no filter with my words and I didn't care who you were or what you did, if I didn't like you,  you would know it. I mistreated my parents and I was selfish, extremely arrogant, and had no self-respect and no respect for others. The media played a huge role in my life and I basically educated myself through television and movies and they dictated to me what kind of woman I should be in society.

Sooo.....that WAS me in a nutshell. Definitely nothing to be proud of but Alhamdulillah, Allah, The Almighty took me out of this dark hole and guided me with light. What I want to start off with is to let everyone know (Muslim or not) that without a strong foundation of good morals, ethics, and values the individual not only becomes corrupt but so does the society as a whole. Whether you are educated or not, we can all agree on this because it is just common sense and our basic understanding of good vs bad. But the point I am about to make here, is what confuses many and even causes opposition from many individuals (even including Muslims, Subhana'Allah). The reason why society becomes corrupt is because the woman are corrupted in some way, shape of form (or all for that matter) and once the woman is corrupt then it has a major domino effect on herself, her husband, and her family; once she is down than the entire household goes down with her. 

Many, many, many people may disagree with me but this is not merely based on my opinion because if you look around you or even within your own family members, somewhere in between, you will find that there is a divorce, a single mother (not by choice), and immodesty sweeping the nation by storm. If you don't agree with me in that regard then please, let us explore the media and see just exactly what kind of women has society produced. 

Even though I do not own a television and I refuse to watch movies, (which is another entire topic on it's own) one can surely find out what is going on in the online and offline world with a simple Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, and any other type of social networking program. What I have been witnessing (and I know you all can not deny) is horrendous, horrific, and disgusting. I can't believe just how low woman (and I am referring here to the kuffar) have made themselves and how absolutely satanic every single pop star or celebrity has become?! This is what is flooding the homes of millions and billions of families each and every day; half naked women dancing around on stage and on streets like dogs and honking like donkeys with absolutely no sense of shame AT ALL.

I can't believe that I was SO desensitized from all this before Islam. It never phased me that these women are possessed and hypnotized and sold their own self worth and self respect just for a cheap bargain of the worldly life! They have chosen to submit themselves to the devil and are trying to bring down innocent young women along with them. These women try to corrupt the fitrah of every single person and inject them with their virus. Shaitan uses these womens as his slaves to brainwash women into leaving their modesty while encouraging them to fornicate and show-off as much of their awrah (private parts) as possible. He uses women to promote empowerment through nakedness, hatred through vulgar cursing and slandering, and he even goes as far as making women dress as men so that they can subconsciously feel more dominant and powerful than men! Subhana'Allah. All this for what? A hot seat in Hell (AUDHUBILLAH!!!!!) ??!  

Yes, many Muslim women are seen these days imitating these slaves of shaitan and I mean how can we blame them? When every Muslim parent has a television in their home and they themselves do not even submit fully to Allah and fear Him, how can we then expect our youth, our next generation to lead righteous lives and follow the correct Sunnah of the prophet Muhammad (sallalahu aleyhi wasselam)? The moment we submit to our desires is the very moment shaitan sneaks into the door to your heart and one small "innocent" little sin...will eventually turn into bigger sins which then will cause us to fall into the greatest sins of them all! (and May Allah protect us from such diseases of the heart and from His Punishments! Ameen) ... submitting to your own desires, following those fashion hijabi girls and idolizing them like they are some sort of fashion guru's gift to society..or following young celebrity boys?! ...AstughfurAllah!?! These people will not help clean your heart, they will only blacken it! Do not follow them in their footsteps, remove yourselves from their circles and follow those who actually will benefit you and your akhirah ! 

Truly in the body there is a morsel of flesh, which, if it be whole, all the body is whole, and which, if it is diseased, all of [the body] is diseased. Truly, it is the heart.” 

There is no more remembrance of Allah in our hearts and there is no more desire to follow the Sunnah of our beloved prophet. The Sunnah that he (sallalahu aleyhi wasselam) worked so hard to preserve has now vanished. Somewhere along the way we became arrogant and that arrogance took over and caused us to become ignorant. Ignorant in the deen of Allah, the Almighty, The Master of The Day of Judgement, The Owner, The Creator, The Most Merciful, The Oft Forgiving. He, the only One who deserves to be worshiped. He is Allah. He is the One who gave you your first breath, your eyesight, your hearing, your beauty, your wealth, your family, your ability to eat, sleep, breath. He is the Almighty, the One who gave you an education; He is the One who gave you wealth so that you could give it away to the poor and the needy. He is the One who gave you wealth so that you could spend it in His Way. 

Do we really want to follow the puppets of shaitan and become like those dirty women that he has brainwashed and used to his advantage? Islam gives women respect, honour, and purity! Why do we want to ruin that with the dirty dunya devils!?! We must remember that we are strangers in this world and that is what makes us FREE!!! Free from the shackles of the shaitan and free from submitting to our desires ! We are the slaves of Allah and nothing is more liberating and honourable then this title!!

So what have we done? Where have we gone ? Where has our desires taken us? Who is our Lord and who is our Prophet (sallalahu aleyhi wasselam) ? What is our religion and what have we done with it? The only way we can find the answers to these life saving questions is by cleaning our hearts with the remembrance of Allah and by following the Sunnah of our prophet Muhammad (sallalhu aleyhi wasselam). When we HEAR we OBEY and not to our desires but to Allah alone. The proofs are clear and the religion is made to be easy and moderate because of the Mercy of Allah! 

Evaluate yourself and who your friends are...ask yourself : If I were to die right now, what will I bring to Allah? Will I be able answer the three dreadful questions in the grave? Will Allah be pleased with me when I meet Him? 

I guarantee you, you won't be ready to meet your Lord. 

Wednesday, March 19, 2014

The Complaint of the Ignorant -ibn Al-Qayyim (rahimuAllah)

source : Al Fawaid (taken from the English translation of the book) p. 134
The ignorant people complain to people about Allaah, and this is the highest degree of ignorance, for if he had known his Lord, he would not have complained about Him, and if he had known the people he would not have complained to them.
One of the predecessors saw a man complaining to another man about his poverty and dire necessity. He said to him, ‘O you! By Allaah, you have done nothing but complain about He who has mercy for you, to the one who has no mercy for you’.
The following verses have been mentioned about the meaning of the previous statement of the predecessor.
When you complain to a son of Adam
verily you complain about the Most Merciful
to the one who does not pity.
On the contrary, the person who is profoundly knowledgeable about Allaah complains to Allaah alone. And the most knowledgeable person about Allaah is the one who complains about himself to Allaah, and never to people. He complains about the causes that make people do wrong to him, for he knows about the following Qur’anic verses,
‘And whatever of misfortune befalls you it is because of what your hands have earned. And He pardons much’
(Ash-Shura, 42: 30)
‘Whatever of good reaches you, is from Allaah but whatever of evil befalls you, is from yourself.’
(An-Nisa, 4: 79)
‘(What is the matter with you?). When a single disaster smites you, although you smote (your enemies) with one twice as great, you say: ‘From where does this come to us?’ Say (to them), ‘It is from yourselves (because of your evil deeds). ‘And Allaah has power over all things.
(Al-Imran, 3: 165)
Therefore, there are three levels: the lowest one is to complain about Allaah to his creatures, the highest one is to complain about yourself to Him and the middle one is to complain about His creatures to Him. May Allaah make us from those who complain to Him alone about ourselves, He the Majestic and Most High, Ameen.

Monday, March 17, 2014

“…If the slave knows everything else but fails to know Allah, it is as if he knows absolutely nothing…”

Every muscle in the body was created to execute a specific function, by which, it can obtain the pinnacle of its performance. And the sickness of that particular body part is its failure to execute the function for which it was created or having some level of deficiency in performing it, if it even functions at all.
The sickness of the hand is its inability to grab or clutch. The sickness of the eye is its inability to see or observe. The sickness of the tongue is its inability to utter. The sickness of the body is its inability to move in the natural order it was created to or its deficiency in doing do. The sickness of the heart is its inability to execute the functions it was created to perform such as: being conscious of Allah, knowing Allah, loving Allah, desiring to meet Allah and turning constantly towards Him, while giving precedence to this over the heart’s every ardent desire.
Consequently, if the slave knows everything else but fails to know Allah, it is as if he knows absolutely nothing. Even if he achieves some share or portion of what this transient life has to offer (from its many pleasures and desires) but fails to develop a solid intimate relationship with Allah which produces an ardent desire to meet Him emerging from a strong love of Him, then he has failed to achieve the bliss this life has to offer as well as forfeited the ultimate pleasure of his eye. 
Rather if the heart is completely void of the knowledge of Allah and the desire to meet Him, then all of what he obtained from the pleasures and delights of this life will inevitably become a punishment for him.
Thus he becomes a punisher of his own self, with the same exact thing he thought he was granting himself happiness and pleasure with. And this is from two angles:
The First: Because of the sorrow and grief that resulted from his forfeiture and his desire of the transient things of this life, it became a barrier between him and obtaining what his soul was utterly attached to.
The Second: Because he forfeited what was better, more beneficial and longer lasting for him, in that he never achieved it.
Hence, the beloved thing he attained was actually forfeited and the more beloved thing was never even achieved.
Everyone who truly knows Allah loves Him and devotes his worship to Him sincerely and completely and does not give precedence to the other things that are beloved to him over Allah.
And whoever does so, his heart is truly sick. Similar to the intestines of the human being, if it gives precedence to unhealthy food over food that is healthy, it loses its desire for the food that is actually healthy and accustoms itself to the unhealthy food.
It is possible for the heart to become sick, and the sickness will continue to increase while the individual does not even realize it, due to his preoccupation and negligence regarding its well-being and the means by which this well-being is acquired.
Rather the heart can die while the individual is not even aware of its demise. The indication that the heart is sick is that it is not affected by the injurious nature of evil, not bothered by the fact that it is ignorant of the haqq (i.e. truth), and its beliefs are flawed.
The heart that is full of life is affected by the injurious nature of evil and harmed by its ignorance of the truth based upon the extent of its life. But It is possible that the individual can recognize the sickness  of his heart, however, tolerating the bitterness of the medicine to cure it could be just as painful as the sickness itself.
Thus he gives precedence to the continuity of the sickness over the difficulties found in the remedy because the remedy actually opposes his desires and this is the most difficult thing for the soul but there is nothing more beneficial for it.
At times the individual accustoms himself to patience then it dissolves and his steadfastness weakens and eventually subsides due to his lack of knowledge, foresight and impatience, like a person who traverses upon a frightening path that actually leads to safety and security. And he knows that if he exerts patience the fear will subside and he will attain the safety and security he desires.
Nonetheless, he is in dire need of unyielding perseverance and certainty about the path upon which he is traversing. And whenever his patience and certainty weakens he will turn back from the path and will not be able to endure the difficulties of it, especially if he is alone without a companion to traverse this path with him. He will begin to say: “Where did all the people go? I need someone to emulate!”
This is the state of most people and is also the main component of their destruction. So the one who is truly knowledgeable, never feels alienated because there is a lack of camaraderie upon the path he is traversing or because he was abandoned, especially when his heart recognizes that it has a camaraderie with the foremost generation, those upon whom Allah has bestowed His bounty upon from the prophets, the truthful, the martyrs and the righteous, and how great is the company of these individuals.
Ishaaq Ibn Ra’huyah (Rahimahullah), one of the contemporaries of Imam Ahmad, was asked about an issue and when he replied to it, someone said to him: “Your brother Ahmad Ibn Hanbal was asked the same question and responded with the same reply as you did!
So Ishaaq said: “I did not think anyone would agree with me in this issue!
Therefore the ability of the slave to traverse this path alone in search of his success is, in itself, proof of the sincerity in his quest. 
Thus Ishaaq did not feel alienated because no one agreed with him about the matter, even before the truth of the matter became apparent to everyone else and this is because, when the truth becomes apparent, it is not in need of anyone to testify on its behalf.
For the heart can see the truth just as the eye can see the sun. If the individual sees the sun with his own eyes his knowledge and belief regarding it, is not in need of anyone testifying or agreeing to the confirmation of its rising.
Source: Ighatha tul Lahfan min Masa’id ush Shatan, Vol.1, Page 68 by Ibn al-Qayyim