The (deadly) Makeover.

Assalamualaikum wa Rahmatulahi wa Barakatu!

"(Iblees (Satan)) said: "O my Lord! Because you misled me, I shall indeed adorn the path of error for them (mankind) on the earth, and I shall mislead them all. Except Your chosen, (guided) slaves among them" (Quran, al-Hijr: 39 – 40)

Not a day goes by without me saying "Alhamdulilah" for the true Blessings and Guidance of Allah Subhanahu wa t'ala. What an honour it truly is to be at His service, submitting only to Him and Him alone, and to call others to Him and to HIM ALONE. 

I wanted to dedicate yet (again) another post, calling all my Muslim sisters (and non-Muslim sisters in humanity) to reflect upon this important issue. I often write about Modesty as it is one of the main problems this Ummah is facing. No doubt, we all can admit, that modesty is disappearing. No doubt we can all admit that the Muslim youth of today's society are all falling into the traps of Shaitan. They idolize celebrities, male models, music bands, and submit themselves to the fashion world of the kafirs. The more they surround themselves with the television the more they become brainwashed by the tactics of Shaitan. The more they submit to Shaitan the more they fall into corruption and utter oppression. The Muslim youth and even mature Muslim woman of today's society are imitating more of what they see on television and less of what they know about the mother of the believers (may Allah be pleased with them all.)

A perfect example I wanted to share with you all, would be those women who get MAKEOVERS. Makeovers are just an example of how oppressed the women of today's society truly are. On television, they dedicate reality shows just to give women makeovers (and Alhamdulilah, I do not own a television, but I know this only because I used to be 'religiously' obsessed with these makeover shows- AstughfurAllah). I would watch these shows, admiring the host, who is usually glammed up with enough makeup, that if you scraped her face with your fingernails, one layer would come off leaving still another two or three on. I admired her rude behavior and the condescending way she would talk down to the guests on the show. I also admired the way she dressed. She looked like some upclass Vegas showgirl who was covered in bling-bling, clingy-clangy bracelets and Louboutins the length of a ruler. I thought this host was a strong, liberated woman who represented society at it's finest (Subhana'Allah). She would dictate to oblivious women who lacked fashion sense, what to wear. She would tell these women that they looked horrible, plain, and unattractive. These women were told that their modesty needed a little "spice" and to "flaunt it if you got it!" Subhana'Allah, is this what society is teaching women these days? To abandon their "makeup-less faces", their modest way of dress, and their housewife/mother duties? Is the television dictating to us that the true woman (obedient modest wife, educated mother, strong foundation of the household) is no longer a real woman? What has the "real woman" become in this 21st century that we live in? Is she that very woman who listens to the talk shows for motherly advice? Is she the woman who takes fashion advice from the scantily clad girl in the music video? Is she the woman who has become liberated and free by showing more skin and having less intellect?

There is a problem here, and it is evident. The job of the fashion host is to give these women a makeover, to strip her old identity and replace it with a newer, 'more fun, carefree, and daring' one. The fashion host tells the 'plain' housewife/mother of three, that she needs to take care of herself and update her wardrobe every week or so and have her 'girl friends' take her out for a 'girls night out on the town.' There is nothing wrong with upkeeping yourself for your husband, there is nothing wrong with inviting your friends over for dinner (keeping it halal), but the lifestyle that the fashion host promotes, is one that corrupts the heart and the household. Of course, kafirs do not see ANY fault in this at all. Their clouded judgement is constantly drowned in confusion from blind following the Shaitan. But what is the excuse then for the Muslim woman? Does she have such an excuse to follow such a lifestyle? Is this what her Lord ordained for her? Is that true obedience to Allah, The Almighty? Obviously the answer is a big NO!

What the Western society CHOOSES to show on television and in the media is something that has flooded the homes of millions and billions of families all over the world. The dangers of the television are silent but lethal. The main theme ranging from music, movies, talk-shows, sitcoms, drama's, and even commercials are based all on one thing and one thing only "sex sells." Aside from deterring one as far away as possible from Allah, it distorts, it disturbs, and it desensitizes one's perception. THIS is one of the deadliest makeovers. Many of us know the plans of Shaitan to lead the slaves of Allah astray :

"(Allah) said: "O Iblees (Satan)! What is your reason for not being among the prostrators?"(Iblees (Satan)) said: "I am not the one to prostrate myself to a human being, whom You created from sounding clay of altered black smooth mud" (Quran, al-Hijr:32 – 33).

“(Iblees) said: ‘Because You have sent me astray, surely, I will sit in wait against them (human beings) on Your straight path. Then I will come to them from before them and behind them, from their right and from their left, and You will not find most of them as thankful ones (i.e. they will not be dutiful to You)’” (Quran, Al-Aaraf: 16,17).

“O Children of Adam! Let not Shaitan (Satan) deceive you, as he got your parents (Adam and Hawwa’ (Eve)) out of Paradise,”(Quran, Al-Aaraf: 27).

". . . and follow not the footsteps of ‘Shaitan’ (Satan). Surely he is to you an open enemy" (Quran, Al-Anaam: 142).

“Surely, Shaitan (Satan) is an enemy to you, so take (treat) him as an enemy. He only invites his Hizb (followers) that they may become the dwellers of the blazing Fire” (Faatir 35:6).

So why are we still following him? Many of us know where we will end up if we follow the footsteps of Shaitan. We all know what will happen to us if we decide to put our desires before Allah, The Almighty! So why do we still do it? Why do we still try to imitate the kafir lifestyle and the kafir women? Why do we leave our modesty to adopt immodesty? Why do we choose to go for that dirty deadly makeover rather than the pure healthy one? Did we forget about the Punishment of Allah? Did we forget what He is capable of? Did we forget what will happen to us in our graves and on the Day of Judgement if we disobey our Lord during the dunya? There is no turning back......

TOO many of us are trying way TOO hard to give ourselves a makeover in order to "fit" into society. Shaitan will never get tired of leading Allah's slaves astray. He will work full-time, over time, ALL THE TIME until the trumpet is blown. We are never grateful for the blessings that Allah has given us, instead we feel the need to destroy and distort our own beauty and our self-respect. We are never thankful for the simple things in our lives that Islam teaches us, instead we need to introduce innovations and extremity into the religion just to adhere to OUR desires! Subhana'Allah! We keep striving for something that is utterly unattainable and temporary. We keep striving for this dunya, the cheap goods it has to offer and we forget to turn to Allah and to repent to Him. We forget to give our hearts a makeover. We forget to clean our souls with the remembrance of Allah. We forget to educate ourselves on who our Lord is. We forget to remember just how deadly the Torment of Allah is. O' slaves of Allah! You should be worrying about giving your heart and soul a makeover instead of your hair and your faces! You should worry about preparing your resume for the Akhirah and not this dunya! You should worry about what good deeds you will bring to your grave and not what good shoes you will bring home! You should be giving your wardrobe a proper makeover with loose fitting abayas and modest hijabs and niqabs instead of pants and blazers and turban hijabs! You should worry about memorizing the Qur'an and not your favourite channels!

“O you who believe, save yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is men and stones over which are (appointed) angels, stern and severe, who flinch not (from executing) the commands they receive from God, but do (precisely what) they are commanded.” (Quran 66:6)

“The people of Hell will be made to weep, and they will weep until they have no tears left.  Then they will weep blood until they have, as it were, channels in their faces, if ships were put in them, they would float.” (Ibn Majah)

Sahih Bukhari
Volume 1, Book 6, Number 301 :
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Narrated by Abu Said Al-Khudri (rahimuAllah)

Once Allah’s Apostle (sallalahu aleyhi wasselam) went out to the Musalla (to offer the prayer) o ‘Id-al-Adha or Al-Fitr prayer. Then he passed by the women and said, “O women! Give alms, as I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-fire were you (women).” They asked, “Why is it so, O Allah’s Apostle ?” He replied, “You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. A cautious sensible man could be led astray by some of you.” The women asked, “O Allah’s Apostle! What is deficient in our intelligence and religion?” He said, “Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?” They replied in the affirmative. He said, “This is the deficiency in her intelligence. Isn’t it true that a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses?” The women replied in the affirmative. He said, “This is the deficiency in her religion.”

and remember, because of this (above) hadith, we should be working even HARDER to obey Allah instead of disobeying Him! Take that step, and cut out all the harmful things that will only corrupt your religion. Follow Allah's Messenger (sallalahu aleyhi wasselam) and leave that which does not concern you (i.e- giving yourself that deadly makeover that won't save you from the blazing fire or the eternal punishment and Anger of Allah)

Allah is All Knowing, All Hearing, and All Seeing. Shouldn't we feel ashamed to know that He is watching our every move while the Angels are recording every single deed that we do? Shouldn't we fear that we could die in any given second and that once we die, we won't have the chance to repent or be given a second chance? If the companions of the Prophet (sallalahu aleyhi wasselam) were shy and ashamed even of the smallest of sins, than how come we don't feel a sign of remorse for our major sins?

Make it count, while you're alive. Otherwise, you'll be spending your eternity regretting it, but by then, it'll be too late. May Allah forgive us all and protect us from His Torment and Punishment from His Wrath. Ameen

May Allah forgive me if I have said anything to offend you all, all good is from Him and anything evil or with error is from my own self and I seek refuge in Him from Shaitan the accursed. Ameen.

Short but sweet

Assalamualaikum wa rahmatulahi wa barakatu! 

While in the middle of working on some new blog posts insha'Allah , I just wanted to share some short but sweet reminders that I found in a book called " The Choice of Every Woman" by: As-Sayyid bin Ahmad Abu Saif. It is beneficial to say the least, and it definitely teaches women of today's society (who love to go against the Islamic rulings to follow their Westernized mentality / desires),  a thing or two. This books for you. 

 

 

What is BUKHL? Do you have signs of it??

Assalamualaikum wa Rahmatulahi wa Barakatu,

So fear Allah as much as you are able and listen and obey and

 spend [in the way of Allah]; it is better for yourselves. And

 whoever is protected from the stinginess of his soul – it is those 

who will be the successful (64:16)

"And spend [in the way of Allah ] from what We have provided you before death approaches one of you and he says, "My Lord, if only You would delay me for a brief term so I would give charity and be among the righteous."

(Qur'an 63:10)

The Mercy and Bounties of Allah are limitless, He even showers His Mercy to the disobedient Muslims and the kafirs yet what are we all doing to thank Him for His Bounties?
Allah blesses us with new days, new experiences, and new outlooks on life so that it may turn our hearts to Him. To be able to live another day is another opportunity to turn to Him and repent for our sinful lives. To be able to live another day is another opportunity to pay heed to His Signs so that we can testify that there is no god but He. To be able to live another day means to use His Provisions He has Generously blessed us with to spend it for His sake and His alone. To be able to eat, sleep, breathe another day, is another opportunity to devote ourselves COMPLETELY to our ONE TRUE CREATOR.

So what am I trying to get on about with this post? Well, it's rather simple.
How many of us are spending in the WAY OF ALLAH? Allah is so Generous to us and ALWAYS blesses us with His Bounties. He blesses us with His Bounties even if we are not deserving of them. He provides us with endless provisions may it be wealth, education, healthy minds and bodies...So here is the problem, what exactly are WE doing to spend in HIS way?  His Provisions that He has provided for us, where is it going to exactly? Do we really need that extra hijab? Do we really need that abaya on sale? What about the fourth meal of the day ? DO WE REALLY NEED THAT? I understand we all have needs but SO DOES the Ummah. Allah has tested us with trials and calamities and they are only increasing. We cry and get all depressed about the sad state of the Ummah but when we have the opportunity to help out, we just ignore and make excuses to justify WHY we aren't spending in the way of Allah.

There are just TOO many excuses my dear sisters, just TOO many. I don't need to hear them, the starving orphans in Kenya don't need to hear them, nor do the innocent oppressed families in Syria, India, Burma (and everywhere else in this weak Ummah!). But...Allah will definitely Hear your excuses on the Day of Judgement when He asks you WHY you did not spend in His way, when He provided you with ALL the means to do so. When you were given countless opportunities to help out for His sake, yet you were stingy and you hid your wealth. You were given opportunities upon opportunities to give even HALF of a date or a SMILE, yet you were too stingy to EVEN offer such things. You were given the provision to donate to starving children in Pakistan yet you saved your wealth to feed your family of 4 their 4th meal of the day rather than a broken family of 15 who has not eaten for weeks! So, then what will you say? What kind of excuses will you have for Him then? 

If you are one of the many who say:  "Allah knows my intentions and my current situation as to why I am not spending in His way.." Surely, He definitely does know, since He was the one who put you in that situation in the first place. Can you REALLY say that you have been trying hard to spend in His way? If you do sadaqah already than good on you, Masha'Allah may Allah accept from you, but does that really mean it stops there? Does "Oh well I donated some used clothes to the masjid yesterday" or " I donate to children in Pakistan once a year" or  " Well, I need to save my money for my children's education" really suffice as an excuse? NO. It does not, Allah has mentioned countless times over and over about the IMPORTANCE about spending in His Way.
Those who have sufficient emaan will know the importance of spending in His way. Those who follow the correct teachings of the Qur'an and Authentic Sunnah, will know the importance of spending in His way.
If you are unaware of the due right to spend in the way of Allah for His sake, then please do educate yourselves as it is mentioned countless times in Surahatul Baqarah, Al-e-Imran, An-Nisa and so on and so forth and if you can't donate because you have gone bankrupt or you are living on the streets or for whatever extreme reason, than may Allah make it easy for you, and please make sure you pray the Duha prayer as that constitutes as an act of charity: 

1140. Abu Dharr (May Allah be pleased with him)reported: The Prophet (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, "In the morning, charity is due on every joint bone of the body of everyone of you. Every utterance of Allah's Glorification (i.e., saying Subhan Allah) is an act of charity, and every utterance of His Praise (i.e., saying Al-hamdu lillah) is an act of charity and every utterance of declaration of His Greatness (i.e., saying La ilaha illAllah) is an act of charity; and enjoining M`aruf (good) is an act of charity, and forbidding Munkar (evil) is an act of charity, and two Rak`ah Duha prayers which one performs in the forenoon is equal to all this (in reward).''
[Muslim].

Let us all reflect on ourselves and ask ourselves if we are TRULY doing enough for the sake of Allah. I speak on behalf of myself first and foremost of course, and this reminder is dedicated firstly to myself, but I also encourage you all to reflect upon yourselves and really think deeply about all your good deeds that you have done for the sake of Allah. Ask yourself, if you were to die in an hour, or this very minute, what good deeds would you be bringing with you to the grave? Will Allah be pleased with you? Again, 

"And spend [in the way of Allah ] from what We have provided you before death approaches one of you and he says, "My Lord, if only You would delay me for a brief term so I would give charity and be among the righteous."

(Qur'an 63:10)

I leave you with some important reminders, and if you are willing to donate to my new project " Orphans @ Hajar al-Aswad" which is a project that I am working on with sisters from Kenya, then please see here for more information : http://www.onechinesemuslimah.com/apps/donations/ 

Say (O Muhammad صلى الله عليه و سلم) to ‘Ibadi (My slaves) who have believed, that they should perform As-Salat (Iqamat-as-Salat ), and spend in charity out of the sustenance We have given them, secretly and openly, before the coming of a Day on which there will be neither mutual bargaining nor befriending. ( سورة إبراهيم , Ibrahim, Chapter #14, Verse #31)

548. Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, "Everyday two angels descend and one of them says, `O Allah! Compensate (more) to the person who gives (in charity)'; while the other one says, `O Allah! Destroy the one who withholds (charity, etc)".
[Al-Bukhari ]

"Who are stingy and enjoin upon [other] people stinginess and conceal what Allah has given them of His bounty - and We have prepared for the disbelievers a humiliating punishment -"(4:37)

"And what [harm would come] upon them if they believed in Allah and the Last Day and spent out of what Allah provided for them? And Allah is ever, about them, Knowing."  (4:39)

Here you are - those invited to spend in the cause of Allah - but among you are those who withhold [out of greed]. And whoever withholds only withholds [benefit] from himself; and Allah is the Free of need, while you are the needy. And if you turn away, He will replace you with another people; then they will not be the likes of you. (47:38)

Barsisa, The Worshipper.

Assalamualaikum wa Rahmatulahi wa Barakatu, 

By far, this is one of my most favourite reminders and it should be yours too. 

Next time you think you can outsmart Shaitan, think again. 

A good lesson for us all, perhaps we should just LEAVE THE DOOR CLOSED instead of peeking inside, as we never know what might just be on the other side. May Allah protect us from becoming like Barsisa or Iblees for that matter. Ameen. 

Please Read, Reflect, Repent, & Renew ! 

Barsisa, the worshipper

At the time of Bani Israel, there was a man in a small village, called Barsisa. He was, what you call, a monk. But he was a true Christian. He believed in Tawheed and believed Isa (peace be upon him) was a messenger of Allah. One day three brothers decided to go for Jihad. But they had a sister and they did not want to leave her alone. So they went looking for someone to take care of her. The town people suggested to leave her with Barsisa, because of his piety. So they went to him and when they asked him, he said, “I seek refuge from the cursed Shaytan” and said No! This was because he was scared of falling into sin ( due to the potential fitnah it may cause). Then Shaytan came to Barsisa in the form of Waswasah (Whisperings). Shaytan is very smart and knew Barsisa had a soft heart. So he told Barsisa, “What if they can’t find someone good and leave her with someone bad, wouldn’t that be your fault?” Now Barsisa did not realise this was Shaytan whispering in his heart, and because of his compassion for others, he decided to accept their request and help the woman.

He let her stay in a house opposite the church. He did this so that it would be easy for him to leave her her food outside the church and she could come get it herself. But after sometime, shaytan returned. This time he told Barsisa, “Why don’t you leave the food closer for her, so that people don’t see her moving back and forth alone!” Barsisa agreed and started leaving the food outside the house. But shaytan wasn’t happy with this either, so sometime later, he returned and ask Barsisa, “Why don’t you go in and leave it on the table, so that no one sees her coming out and going in alone all the time!” Again, Barsisa agreed and he started leaving the food on the table.

Then as time went by, Shaytan returned and said to him, “Why don’t you talk to her, she is all alone and has no one to talk to!” Barsisa agreed and started talking to her from behind a door (so as to screen himself). But this would lead them to almost shouting to each other to here themselves. Shaytan asked Barsisa to just go in and talk to her, and finally, he (Shaytan) had got the alone in a room. Shaytan had completed the difficult part. It wasn’t after Barsisa and the woman committed fornication. And to make things worse, she also became pregnant. As soon as the baby was born, Shaytan returned, and said to Barsisa, “What have you done? Look at the result of your evil (ie the child), get ride of the evidence otherwise the brothers will kill you!” Barsisa killed the baby and buried it in the same room the woman was in. Shaytan then told Barsisa, “Do you think you can kill the child of a woman and expect her not to tell anyone?!” and So Barsisa killed her and buried her along side the baby! He then made a fake grave outside and when her brothers returned, he informed them that she died of illness. After seeing the grave and make dua for her, they returned home and accepted Allah’s decree.

Later that night, Shaytan came to them in their dream and informed them about what Barsisa had done and where the child and their sister could be found. The brother got up upset and confused, and informed his brothers of the dream, and they both said they had the same dream. So they believed that it must be true, and when and dug up the fake grave and found it empty. They then dug the placed shaytan showed them in the dream and found the child and woman!

Furious, the brothers took Barsisa to the Leader to get his punishment. Barsisa knew that he would be given the death penalty. Shaytan came to Barsisa again, for the final time this time. This time he revealed himself and told him he was the one whispering the thoughts to him. And he said that he could save Barsisa, and as long as Barsisa makes sujood to him! Barsisa, out of desperation made Sujood to him , this confirmed his Kufr (disbelief) and Shaytan said to him “I am free of you, I fear Allâh, the Lord of the ‘Alamîn (mankind, jinns and all that exists)!” and left Barsisa was stonned to death and on the day of judgement he will be resurrected making Sujood to Shaytan!

So look how shaytan tricked him. He came to him as a friend, but was infact his biggest enemy!

(Their allies deceived them) like Shaitân (Satan), when he says to man: “Disbelieve in Allâh.” But when (man) disbelieves in Allâh, Shaitân (Satan) says: “I am free of you, I fear Allâh, the Lord of the ‘Alamîn (mankind, jinns and all that exists)!” (Al-Hashr 59:16)

Shaytan will never make you sin directly, he will always trick you using Waswasah and he is more patient than any of us. So we should always seek refuge in Allah from Shaytan. Never think you have enough knowledge or are strong enough to take on Shaytan. This is why the Scholars of Islam are the ones with the most Taqwa, fear of Allah. So reflect on the story, if Shaytan told Barsisa to make sujood in the beginning, Barsisa would have said no staright away, but Shaytan has a plan in hand it was a step by step policy that made Barsisa finally breakdown and commit Kufr.

Reference for above story:
Stories in the Quran – Ibn Kathir – 110

(source: http://salaf-us-saalih.com/2009/10/31/story-of-barsisa-the-worshipper/)

The sad life of a Kafir.

Assalamualaikum wa Rahmatulahi wa Barakatu, 

Before Islam, it didn't matter to me whether I believed in a religion or not. It didn't phase me whether there was a Creator of the Universe or not. I could have cared less whether I knew who 'god' was. My perception of 'Heaven' and 'Hell' never became a reality except for an hour at a time when I watched a fantasy drama in the movie theater. I never even THOUGHT about death and the only thing I cared about was living for the moment. I was the "right-then-&-there" kinda girl and I had no direction in my life. Even my friends at the time would try to lecture me and try to give me advice about my "free-spirited" lifestyle and many of them always asked me, "so what do you plan on doing with your life?"

Ironically, it is I who now wants to ask them this very same question. It is I, who wants to advise them about their life plans and their purpose in this world. It is I, who now looks at them and I feel nothing but sympathy and sorrow for their blindness.Those who once felt sorry for me due to my lack and care of life, are now the ones who have taken on that role I once was in. Alhamdulilah, Allah took me out of my darkness and He showered me with His Mercy and guided me to the truth. Alhamdulilah for Him not leaving me in my saddened state of despair. Alhamdulilah for the light of Islam. 

I think about all the friends that I had before Islam, and I reflect upon their life. I reflect upon the life that I once shared with these individuals and I can't help but feel truly sad and sincere sorrow for them. The Guidance of Allah, is something so beautiful and sacred, only once you become a Muslim can you truly understand. This is why I truly feel the need to advise you all of the detrimental, deceptive, depressing life of a kafir. It wrecked me and it is only through Islam that I now find my way back to recovery, Alhamdulilah. 

My dear sisters in Islam, hold onto your gift of guidance. Hold on tightly to it no matter how hard it seems to be in such a society that we live in today. Hold on tightly to the rope of Allah and continue to pull yourself closer to Him and further away from this dunya. Follow the path of our beloved Rasulullah (sallalahu aleyhi wasselam) because following the path of Shaitan will only lead you to the sad life of a kafir. 

What is the sad life of a kafir? 

The sad life of a kafir has no personality, no identity, and no self-respect. They chase unrealistic dreams and have temporary goals. They think nothing more or less about this world and their lives revolve around worshipping idols (music, television, fashion clowns). They live for the worldly life and their outlook on life is nothing but what they see in the mirror. They deceive others but they are the ones who are truly being deceived. They betray, they backbite, they slander and they curse. They are selfish and liars. They do good deeds to show off, and they do good deeds for their own worldly benefit. Their kindness is never sincere (though it might seem like they are, there is always a hidden agenda- getting praised, trying to gain status in this worldly life, etc.). They think they are intellectual and knowledgeable because they read school textbooks and the local newspaper. They revolve their lives around the television and raise their children through tv shows and maids. They cheat on their husbands and they cheat on their wives. They dress to impress others and they strive to look like the next (drug addict) model, or the next (suicidal) actress. The sad life of a kafir knows no bounds to plastic surgery. They express themselves through fashion identities because this is the only way they can showcase their "personality." They cry for attention from strange men (who are no better than dogs chasing their own tails), and they live each day pleasing the creation and forgetting about The Creator. Their hearts are diseased and their souls are cursed. They disbelieve in Allah but believe in Shaitan. They follow their desires and they think that it is perfectly normal to do so. Their sense of freedom is expressing themselves through cheap love songs and $2.00 Tuesday movies. Committing adultery, and committing fornication is second nature to them because they think they originated from apes, so it's ok to act like animals (diseased and all). Subhana'Allah.

Dear sisters in Islam, this is indeed the sad life of a kafir and it is not something that we should be striving to follow. It is not something that we should be striving to live for. This sad life is filled with darkness, emptiness, sadness, depression, and confusion. This kind of life is filled with nothing. It is worth less than a dropping of an ant, and less than a weight of an atom! But you may say "well not ALL kafirs are like this.." but please, think about your statement! Do they have Allah in their lives? Do they know what the sweetness of emaan is? Do they know how to call upon Allah through sajood? Do they REALLY know who Rasulullah (sallalahu aleyhi wasselam) is? Do they know how it feels to be liberated under our modest garments? Do they know what it feels like to be looked at as an actual human being rather than a sex object? Do they know how it feels to be pure and chaste? Do they know what it means to lower their gazes? No. They don't. 

Why would we EVER want to give up our own identity for such a sad life? A life full of misery. A life without our Lord, Allah, The Almighty. Why would we want to follow the life of a bunch of girls who are friends only because they share the same favourite colour and fashion taste? Nobody will ever understand the true beauty of Islam until they see the unity of sisterhood. It is the sincere love for Allah that we have, that unites us all as one Ummah. Remember sisters, the sad life of a kafir will NEVER change, they may think they have their lives all figured out and they may even think that they are the happiest people in the world. But remember, anybody without Allah and whoever follows their own desires instead of His Obedience, is doomed in this world and the next. May Allah guide us all and turn our hearts to Him and Him alone and may He forgive us and bestow upon us His never-ending Mercy. Ameen.

I leave you with four simple words that may change your life (insha'Allah) :

Read, Reflect, Repent, Renew. 

and remember, 

"Whoever has self respect, does not give any value to the worldly life." 

(Ibn Al-Qayyim. Sifatu Al-Safwah 2.77)

May Allah forgive me if I have said anything to offend you all, all good is from Him and anything evil or with error is from my own self and I seek refuge in Him from Shaitan the accursed. Ameen.